12–36 months

Separation Anxiety Helper

Track drop-offs, spot patterns, and feel reassured — even when it doesn't feel like things are improving.

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When was drop-off?

Where?

How did they react?

At the moment of separation

How long to settle?

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What helped?

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Notes

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When to seek support

Separation anxiety is common in young children. Speak to your Health Visitor or GP if:

  • Your child is very distressed when you leave
  • They remain upset for a long time after you have left
  • The distress continues for more than a few weeks or affects everyday life

Trust your instincts. You can also speak to your child's key person, nursery lead or SENCO where appropriate.

Understanding Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is common in young children, particularly from around 6 months to 3 years. It can sometimes last longer or return during periods of stress or change.

Practising short separations, leaving a familiar comfort item, talking about when you will return, and using a calm, positive goodbye can help your child learn that you come back.

Crying at the moment of separation does not necessarily mean your child is unhappy in their setting. Ask their caregiver how long they remain upset and how they are during the rest of the session.

Read the NHS separation anxiety guidance (opens in a new window).

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Common Questions

Is separation anxiety normal?

Yes. It is common in young children, particularly from around 6 months to 3 years. It may last longer or return during times of stress or change.

Does crying at drop-off mean they're unhappy at nursery?

Not necessarily. Crying shows that the separation is difficult at that moment. Ask their caregiver how long they stay upset and how they are during the rest of the session.

Should I sneak away to avoid tears?

A short, calm and positive goodbye helps your child understand that you are leaving and will return. Avoid disappearing without saying goodbye.

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