Biting, Hitting & Aggression Log
Spot patterns and support your child calmly — without blame or judgement.
Occasional biting and hitting are common in toddlers and can be part of normal development. This tool helps you spot patterns and support your child calmly — without judgement.
1 When did it happen?
2 Where did it happen?
3 What happened?
Tick all that apply
4 Who was involved?
5 What may have contributed?
If you're not sure, that's okay. Over time, patterns often become clearer.
6 How did you respond?
Tick all that apply — there's no wrong answer.
Helpful phrases many parents use
- "I can't let you hurt."
- "You're feeling really cross."
- "Gentle hands."
- "Biting hurts."
- "I'm here to help."
- "Let's find something else."
7 What happened after?
Small details can help you notice what supports your child best.
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Understanding & Support
What often helps
- • Stay calm and neutral — your child learns from your reaction
- • Use simple language: "Biting hurts" or "Gentle hands"
- • Name their feelings: "You're feeling really cross"
- • Reduce known triggers when possible (tiredness, hunger)
- • Praise gentle behaviour when you see it
- • Give attention before they need to demand it
Things that may make it harder
- • Using labels like "naughty" or "mean"
- • Shouting or reacting with anger
- • Long explanations they can't process
- • Expecting them to say "sorry" before they understand
- • Shaming in front of others
Why this happens
Toddlers don't yet have the language or impulse control to manage big emotions. Strong feelings can build faster than their ability to cope. Occasional biting and hitting can be ways young children communicate frustration, excitement, or overwhelm — not signs of a "problem child". Calm, consistent boundaries and support can help.
If a bite breaks the skin
Wash the wound with soap and warm water, dry it and cover it with a clean dressing. Contact NHS 111 for a human bite that has broken the skin or signs of infection. Go to A&E for a deep wound or bleeding that will not stop.
Read NHS advice about toddler hitting and biting (opens in a new window)
If biting or hitting feels frequent, serious or worrying, speak to your Health Visitor or GP for personalised support. You're not alone.